My name is Abigail. My husband, Nabel, is not a good or kind man. His name means “fool” and boy does he live up to it! How could not recognize the danger in dismissing David as a warrior? And not just any warrior, a powerful one that had been anointed as the next King of Israel. David’s reputation is known everywhere!
My husband’s pride truly knows no bounds. It has never been my intention as his wife to highlight that fact, but I have spent years enduring it. and this time, I know that the consequences are well beyond just my own embarrassment. I can’t allow so much innocent blood to be shed. I know I have to do something and my hope is that God will bless my courage today.
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Who is David? Who is the son of Jesse? There are many servants these days who are breaking away from their masters. Shall I take my bread and my water and the meat that I have killed for my shearers and give it to men who come from I do not know where?1 Samuel 25:10-11 English Standard Version
And Abigail came to Nabal, and behold, he was holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king. And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunk. So she told him nothing at all until the morning light. In the morning, when the wine had gone out of Nabal, his wife told him these things, and his heart died within him, and he became as a stone.1 Samuel 25:36-37 English Standard Version
The Spirit himself testifies together with our spirit that we are God’s children, and if children, also heirs—heirs of God and coheirs with Christ—if indeed we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him. For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is going to be revealed to us.Romans 8:16-18 English Standard Version
Big Picture Take Away
Abigail is a hero and a woman that we should look to in the Bible as an example of the kind of Godly woman we aspire to be. But, just like it is often done with the Proverbs 31 woman, we must be careful not to misapply the truth presented in Abigail’s story. Using her noble actions, that were done out of a spirit to protect others at her own expense and safety is very different than taking action, in word or deed, without first consulting with whatever authority we may be under, whether that is in the home, at work, at church or anywhere else. For example…
It is not a noble action when you go behind your husband’s back because you didn’t agree with a decision he had made and wanted things to work out differently.
It is not a noble action when your boss gives you specific a direction to take in order to complete a project and you cut corners because you think they are unnecessary or blatantly ignore instructions and do things your own way.
It is not a noble action to complain or gossip about leaders or ministries with which you are dissatisfied while at the same time taking no part in supporting or assisting with them yes still expect to benefit from them.
First, Abigail was a wise woman. Wisdom is not just having knowledge or intelligence, it is understanding when and how to apply it to a situation. Where did her wisdom come from? The same place you and I get it, through life experiences that the Lord uses to grow us.
Second, Abigail is a courageous woman. Courage doesn’t just mean be brave enough to fight a battle but being thoughtful about how to fight your battles as well as understanding which battles are not worth fighting.
Waiting to approach her husband at the right time with the right tone is a much more common act of courage that we wives should emulate. Abigail didn’t confront Nabel in front of a room full of people when he was drunk, nor did she go to her husband looking to start a fight. Instead, she waited until he was sober and simply told him what happened. She understood which battle was worth fighting along with when and how to go about fighting it. Most of all, as she told David, she trusted that the Lord would take vengeance on Nabel for his behavior and we see that He certainly did.
Abigail displayed courage both in her brave, yet humble actions when she went to pacify David and also in her subtle yet strong submissiveness when she went to confront her husband afterward. Abigail’s actions were not made out of selfishness for her own happiness or glory but in quick, careful consideration of what was best for others. When we act in this way with the same wisdom and courage, we will be like Abigail.
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