Episode 9: Can you actually fix a BROKEN friendship?

The fact is that the closer you are to someone, the higher the risk of experiencing brokenness in your relationship. Have you ever been in a close relationship that has experienced some serious friction?

I am not talking about the irritation that comes from spending too much time together. No, what I am talking about is the kind of conflict that cuts you deep because you think the other person would never consider hurting you in that way.

How do you navigate a friendship or any, relationship for that matter, through a big storm? We can’t just cut ties every time things go south, right? So what should we do?

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Episode Scripture

Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.

Proverbs 17:9 English Standard Version

The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.

Proverbs 12:15 English Standard Version

The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, To the person who seeks Him.

Lamentations 3:25 English Standard Version

bearing with one another, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.

Colossions 3:13-14 English Standard Version

Big Picture Take Away

Conflict and strife in our relationships are used by God to sanctify us. When we respond in the wrong way, seeking vindication and apologies, we risk damaging or even losing precious ties to those close to us. It is only through the humility of Christ that we are able to restore relationships.

Practical Application

How do you fix a broken relationship?

  • Do NOT respond in the heat of the moment! Instead, pray. Ask God to calm your emotions and give you direction for moving forward.
  • Seek Godly counsel. Choose someone who can give you advice that brings glory to God – NOT someone who will add fuel to your fire.
  • Be prepared to wait. “Time heals all wounds” is nonsense, but actively waiting on the Lord gives the Holy Spirit time to work on the hearts of all involved. 
  • Go to the other person when you are truly looking for reconciliation, not vindication. Address the big offenses and ask God to help you forgive the smaller ones without seeking apologies for them at all.

Need Help?

Before you can offer true forgiveness, you must understand that YOU are forgiven.

If you are struggling to understand what that really feels like, check out Ep 6 – What is a REAL relationship with God?

If you know the Lord BUT you are feeling far from Him, download this free Discover Your True Identity Journal and start the process of reconnecting to Him.

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